Category: Wellness

It was one of those crazy mornings. I had very little sleep the night before, back-to-back clients booked, a ton of admin waiting for me, and when I arrived at the office the discovery of a drenched floor. The rain from the previous evening had highlighted massive cracks in the wall that suddenly needed urgent attending to in my already crazy day. The morning went by in a blur – explaining to clients why there were towels all over the floor and a damp smell in the air, making calls to my landlord, doing my best to focus on my sessions, making to-do lists in the back of my mind… By lunchtime I felt stressed, unfocused and completely out of control. On top of that I realised I had forgotten to pack lunch! As I sat in front of my computer, trying to answer emails in my lunch hour, my brain felt like it couldn’t string a coherent sentence together if my life (or job) depended on it.

And that’s when my Sensory Intelligence® kicked in. I took a full, deep breath and closed my eyes for a few seconds. I counted back from 10 to one, taking deep breaths with each number. This didn’t stop my mind from spinning, but allowed me to take a step back and assess the situation. I realised three important things:

1. I wasn’t going to be very productive at the time. If I sent emails and attended to my other admin, I was going to make mistakes and would have to re-do a lot of it later.
2. I had a long afternoon filled with appointments and I owed it to my clients to be focused and attentive during their therapy sessions.
3. I was hungry! My stomach was growling. I needed to eat and rest, or else my afternoon would be a nightmare.

I made the decision to close my laptop, put my phone on silent and headed out to lunch. Sensory Intelligence® taught me that my body comes first. I can’t expect my mind to work if my basic needs aren’t met. And right now my basic needs were food and some rest. After I got a sandwich from the shop across the road, I sat outside in the garden to enjoy my lunch. I removed myself from my office and the sensory overload happening due to the smells and damp air, and just focused on the sunshine on my arms as I satiated my hunger. Then I had about 30 mins left, and I decided that it was time for my weighted blanket. I searched for another empty office, closed the door and lay under my blanket for about 15 minutes – until I felt my muscles relax, my breathing slow down and my mind opening up.

(A weighted blanket offers deep pressure sensory input through our touch system. Deep pressure is calming and helps us to self-regulate when we feel out of control. Think of the effect a big hug has when you feel overwhelmed. Weighted blankets can be used by children and adults. Pretty Special is our recommendation for a company that makes excellent, custom-made weighted blankets)

By the time my first afternoon client arrived, I was ready for her session. I was able to focus on her needs from a relaxed and present state. I’d also realised that none of the admin, that felt so important at the time, was actually that urgent. I planned to spend some time in the afternoon to address the things that needed to be done on that day, and then would allocate the other tasks to other days in my week. And when the time came I actually worked much faster and got so much more done, than I would have if I’d forced myself to work when I wasn’t focused and clear-minded.

I look back on this day often, as a reminder of how Sensory Intelligence® is a skill (and a wisdom) that we use every single day. On that day I understood that my body needed to be attended to first, before I could expect my mind to perform at its best. I also had the tools from my ‘sensory toolbox’ at my disposal: breathing, my weighted blanket and luckily some sunshine, to use my senses to re-focus, relax and self-regulate. I always try to remember that we can’t always control our days or our environment, but we can always control our bodies.

It’s important to note that not everything would work for everyone- people have different sensory thresholds and need to self-regulate in different ways. Some people might need a quick run during their lunchtime, contact a friend or listen to their favourite radio station. Others might need to use noise-canceling earphones, move offices for the day due to the smell, or do a longer breathing meditation.

Sensory Intelligence® means understanding your own sensory threshold, so why don’t you do our free Sensory Quiz™ to confirm your overall threshold. Better yet, do our Sensory Matrix™ and get a personalised 26-page report that guides you in understanding your sensory threshold in each of your senses and how to self-regulate in a way that works for your body. I promise you, you will never think about your senses in the same way again!

Last weekend we celebrated my mother-in-law’s birthday. A group of us were sitting around the fire, chatting and listening to music when the soundtrack to La Vie en Rose started playing. Everyone quietened down as Edith Piaf’s deep, soulful voice sang “non, je ne regretted rien”  – no regrets. (I am listening to the song right now as I type this blog and remember the moment clearly.)

When the song finished, my brother-in-law said: “You don’t know what this song means to me”. In 2017 he and my sister-in-law visited Italy for their wedding anniversary. There he bought one of those small wind-up record players, that’s barely bigger than two matchboxes placed on top of each other. This specific one plays “No regrets” when you wind it up – the song we had just listened to. He had bought it as a souvenir of their trip together.

Finding Calm in Chaos: A Sensory Snack Story

The small record player now stands on top of their shelf at home. He told us how, when his world is in chaos – the three children are all shouting at once, the dog is barking, the dinner is burning and he just wants to run away – he turns to the record player, lifts it to his ear and listens to Edith Piaf’s calming voice.

The reason this story stuck with me, and why I was so excited to hear it, was because he was making use of his sensory system to regulate his arousal level. He was using a technique we call a sensory snack. My brother-in-law realised that he was overwhelmed and he used his auditory system to calm down and make it through “Chaos Hour” in the house, without killing someone or running away!

Self-Care Starts with Self-Love

His story highlights the importance of self-love and self-care. February is the month of love, and at Sensory Intelligence® Consulting, we firmly believe that if you want to show love to anyone else, you need to start with loving yourself. If you don’t take care of yourself first, then how can you take care of others? As the saying goes: “You can’t fill an empty cup”