Over & Out

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Some people call it “burnout”, others refer to it as “having had enough”. For me personally, the best description is “end-of-the-year syndrome”.  Regardless of your word choice, it all boils down to the same state of mind:

  • Being easily overwhelmed
  • Feeling disconnected
  • Having a low tolerance for social interaction
  • Overreacting to little things
  • Seeking social isolation and alone-time
  • Experiencing an inability to cope with everyday stressors

We’ve all been there.

That stage in your day, your week, your year or your life when all you want to do is shout out to the world:

“Over & Out!!!”

The urge to press life’s pause button
From a sensory processing perspective, someone with a low sensory threshold will often experience this need to withdraw and hide from everyday life. At Sensory Intelligence® Consulting we refer to individuals with low sensory thresholds as the roots of the Sensory Tree™. They are the people whose nervous systems struggle to filter, organize and respond appropriately to the various sensory input bombarding their sensory systems from one minute to the next. Their brains receive too much sensory input and simply cannot continue processing all the information in a conventional, organized manner. It is usually at this stage where their nervous system feels like shutting down, resulting in sensory overload… and if not addressed… sensory meltdown. Too many bright lights, crowds, noise, strong smells & tastes and irregular movement will undoubtedly steer them in the direction of isolation as a result of an overactive fight-flight-freeze response.

Having said that, it’s not only our roots who experience the need to isolate themselves, avoiding interaction. People with high thresholds, the leaves of the Sensory Tree™, who tend to crave sensory input and thrive on extra stimulation from their environment, also get bombarded with boundless social demands. Nowadays it is much harder to take a break from social interaction when you need to: if a person cannot reach you by phone, there’s e-mail. And if you’re not replying to e-mails, there’s WhatsApp. And, heaven forbid if you don’t respond to a WhatsApp, where the sender can see that it’s been read due to those horrific 2 blue ticks…

Unfortunately, responding with “Over and Out” when you desperately need that break to avoid a fight-flight-freeze response, would just not be acceptable in our fast-paced world.

Truth be told, we all need to opt out from human contact at times and call for an “Over & Out” break.  Where we are allowed to just “be” and giving our nervous systems time to recuperate… Without having to explain ourselves … without worrying about hurting people’s feelings … without feeling guilty about looking after our own well-being …

Maybe, if we manage to be somewhat kinder to ourselves and allowing our bodies time to relax, we’ll be able to achieve this much needed balance.  The best ways I can think of is by revisiting our reactions when children are on the brink of a sensory meltdown and applying the same rules and suggestions:

  • Go play outside
    And while you’re out there, appreciate the beauty of nature by observing plants, flowers, animals, butterflies, etc.  Smell the roses… and jasmine… and lavender.  Swing in a hammock. Walk barefoot, allowing the grass to tickle your feet.
  • Time out
    Allow yourself time in a calm space with no human or electronic interference.
  • Keep quiet
    Listen… to the sound of the ocean, your favourite music, or do absolutely nothing.
  • Go to bed
    Allow your body and nervous system enough time to rest during the night. If you’re lucky enough, take that afternoon nap!
  • Have a cup of tea
    Soothe your body from the inside out.
  • Get some exercise or go for a massage
    Movement is a number one self-regulating strategy. Also, the effects of deep pressure have been researched for many years – it is a wonderful tool to help calm your nervous system in stressful times.
  • Put your phone or tablet down
    Take a proper social interaction break. This will free up your senses to experience the magnificent world around you.

Sometimes you have to take a break and breathe before you can keep moving forward – Kayla Panchisin

Over & Out!!!

                                                        Roger that?

 

To find out what your sensory thresholds are, do our quick Sensory Quiz™. For a personalised, 26-page guide on how your senses affect the way you live, learn, work and play, visit our Sensory Matrix™ webpage.

The best Christmas gift of all

I know it might still be a few weeks away, but there’s that feeling in the air… Christmas is around the corner! Slowly but surely shopping centers are bringing their Christmas trees out of storage, dusting off the decorations and making plans to outshine last year’s colourful display. Suitable “body types” are being approached to fulfill many children’s dreams… meeting Santa Clause, sitting on his lap and telling him their innermost thoughts and desires!

And so also begins the (dreaded) task of searching for the perfect gift for your loved ones… a mammoth task to say the least!

Thankfully my family have made the decision a few years ago, to draw names from a hat. You only have to think of a magical gift from the North Pole for one other person. Suddenly the heavy Christmas shopping weight that was starting to wiggle its way onto your shoulders, makes way for a task to look forward to!!!

BUT (isn’t there always a but…) this name-drawing rule of course does NOT apply to the kids.

Since we encourage them to believe in the magic of Christmas, we should create some of it for them. Give them back their innocent belief in things that cannot be seen: Santa Clause, the elves, Rudolph and his reindeer friends, magical moments, hope, trust, love, peace, happiness and belonging.

My list of ideas for children’s Christmas stockings has less to do with the content and more with the action involved. It’s not an easy list, because it will require one of your most precious possessions… time. Undivided attention and time that they get to spend with you: their parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles. Precious time where you create experiences filled with memorable moments.

In my opinion, the best way to achieve this goal for kids, ensuring success, is by adding sensory input, since there’s not enough going around in their lives anymore. You’ll be in their good books for a long, long time!

Nowadays children don’t get to experience the outside world as easily and unrestricted as we were able to and can easily miss out on crucial (and super-fun) building blocks of development: sensory processing and integration. Higher learning in later years is dependent on their initial interaction, experimentation and ‘’a-ha’’ moments during their younger years. TV, tablet games and sedentary lifestyles are simply not providing the same input as sensory experiences. Add to that the magic of sharing this experience with a loved one and you’ve created a lasting happy memory (and learning experience) for a child… and for yourself!

Let’s use common sense and involve our senses when choosing the perfect gift.

So here goes with some Christmas gift ideas:

  • A new storybook that you get to read to your child, while they sit on your lap.
  • A hammock strong enough for two. Quality time can be spent together in mid-air, while rhythmically swinging life’s worries away.
  • Cooking classes for the two of you. Now you can make trifle for Christmas together.
  • Swing ball / tennis racquets. Fun times on the tennis court for the whole family!
  • Making scented play-dough together. They can choose their favourite scents.
  • Create a dream-catcher together to look at when life needs some colour.
  • Spend a day at the beach, sliding down a sand dune in a cardboard box.
  • Learn how to play a musical instrument together.
  • Go for a horseback ride together… no phones allowed!
  • Girls and moms / grannies / aunts can go for a day at the spa.
  • New fishing rods, so dads / grandpas /uncles can go fishing with the kids.
  • …and don’t forget to decorate the Christmas tree together!

All they really want for Christmas… is YOU!

 

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