Sensory guidelines to choosing your 2023 diary

Last week I came to the shocking realisation that I already need a diary for 2023.  After a few minutes of contemplating how time flies, I made a plan to go to the mall after work.  I decided to visit the stationary store to take a look at their options for a 2019 diary.  I soon realised that the choices were overwhelming, prices ranging from R90 – R590, sizes from “fit in your pocket” to “you need a backpack for this one”, different colours, shapes, formats… I felt overwhelmed just by looking at the rack!

This is when I realised my sensory assess could help me to make a choice.  I am a “root” – this means I have low sensory thresholds and too much information overwhelms me  (but I think you noticed that from above!).  I was very grateful to know my own sensory assess well enough to make sense of what was happening in trying to choose a diary.  So I came up with the following guidelines on how to choose the best diary for yourself for 2019:

THE COVER:
Diary covers come in all colours and patterns.  Some are plain with limited text, others are a mixture of beautiful patterns and colours on the front and back, and you even get ones with specific themes like “Little Prince” or “Disney” on them.  I soon realised it is very important to take your visual threshold into account – no matter how much you may like a certain pattern or theme, you need to remember that you will most likely use this diary EVERY DAY for the next year.

  • If you are easily overwhelmed by visual stimuli, like me, you might opt for something with an organised pattern, or a clear colour with limited print on the front.
  • If you love bright colours and wild shapes, you need to remember that you also most likely enjoy nuance and change and that you might grow bored if you choose something too bold.

The best is to pick up the diary, spend some time looking at the cover, and feel what happens in your body.  If you feel excited and ready for the year when you look at the cover, then YES!  If you feel overwhelmed and like there is just ‘too much to do’ when you look at the cover, then maybe another colour and pattern will suit you better.

THE INSIDE:
When looking at the inside of a diary, we also want to take our visual threshold into account.

  • For myself, due to my low threshold, I need a diary that has only one day on a page and the times are clearly marked.  If there is more than one day on a page, the information appears ‘too much’ and I struggle to make sense of what needs to happen in the day.  I also like a diary that has a year planner at the front so I can see everything that needs to happen laid out in one place.
  • If you have a high visual threshold, you might enjoy a format of having more than one day on a page, or even having pictures, motivational quotes and extra information on your page.

Your preference has nothing to do with how busy you are or your cognitive capacity to do a lot.  It simply relates to how much visual information your brain can process at a time.  By choosing the best option, you will free your brain up to do more important work in the day, rather than spend valuable energy trying to decipher your diary. ‘

THE “PICK-UP TEST”:
I soon realised that it’s very important to pick up a diary.  If like me, your diary goes with you to work, to clients and home again it means you have to carry it around all day so you might want to opt for a lighter diary.  The weight is dependent on your body’s ability to carry around additional weight.

  • If it is too heavy, you will become irritated, annoyed and create tension in your shoulders and neck.
  • If you aren’t bothered by extra weight, or you plan not to carry your diary around, you can opt for a bigger size like an A4 or a heavier diary.

It is important to pick up the diary and perhaps even walk around with it a bit.  Are you aware of the weight?  Maybe something lighter will do.  If you are NOT aware of the extra weight, then this might be the one for you!

HAVE FUN!:
This last tip I included because choosing a diary seems like very serious business indeed.  But this is just a quick reminder to have fun!  Choosing a diary needs to get you excited for the year ahead, with all the new adventures it might bring!

Tell us how you chose your diary and what you learned about yourself in the process.  We would love to hear from you!

Want to find out more about your own sensory thresholds and what specific sensory tips and tools would work for you? Click here to do our free Sensory Quiz™ for a short summary of your assessment.  For a comprehensive 26-page report, buy the Sensory Matrix™ online.  You will be amazed at the results!

Mama(in)Sanity

‘Mama’ is one of the most wonderful, fear-filled, rewarding and selfless titles one will ever earn.  I recently earned this title for the THIRD time and feel truly blessed!  But with this blessing came a totally new sense of insanity!!

My brain was on guard with the first cry of my brand new,  beautiful blue-eyed girl.  With that first cry came an overload of new sensations:  the smell of milk and baby breath, the touch of soft skin on my chest, unconscious rocking movements to soothe my precious one (even when I hear her call in the distance) and high-pitched cries, oh the crying….

As an Occupational Therapist it is my job to inform and assist moms with their children; I know baby- and toddler lingo all too well.  The truth is that no amount of knowledge can prepare us mamas on the sensory challenges that Motherhood brings, and the effect it has on our relationships and well-being.

I became intensely aware of emotions elicited by these new sensory experiences-

  • Anger towards my older two kids who cannot seem to remember NOT to run on our wooden floors while I breastfeed their little sister. They also tend to have some really important questions to ask while I am trying my utmost best to create a calming environment for their sister’s daytime naps…..  more anger!
  • Irritation towards my spouse (who has a very high tolerance for sensory input) who heightens the energy levels when he arrives home at 5h30 pm
  • Frustration when I cannot seem to find 30 minutes a day to move my body, on my OWN, in order to get the ‘feel-good’ hormones going. And agitation with tight waistbands and non-supportive feeding bra’s.
  • Sheer relief when I can switch off the nursery room’s light at night while listening to baby lullabies and white noise as my youngest drifts off to sleep.
  • And guilt when I leave the rest of my family ‘alone’ for an extra 15 minutes after baby has fallen asleep, just to remind myself what ‘sanity’ feels like.

As moms we naturally protect and shield our kids.  From day 1 we are constantly busy trying to create the ‘perfect’, womb-like sensory environment for our babies.  We are on the lookout for signs of over-stimulation, discomfort, raised temperatures and possible pain.  Our primitive self-protection system, the autonomic nervous system, not only warns us of personal danger, but also alerts us of possible dangers threatening our children.  We are exhausted….

I came to the realization that we have the ability to survive on an almost empty tank.  But I strongly believe that we should not accept living only to survive, but start finding our joy in this important role that we play.  I refuse to live by the saying ‘this too shall pass’, but rather strive towards:

‘in this too I will find contentment, I will find magic Mama-moments’.

So for now, dear Mama, let’s go a bit slower, let’s breathe, let’s believe that we are enough, that we are loved.

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