Tips to reduce stress over the holidays

The long-awaited summer school holidays are here and with that the Festive Season. It is traditionally a time to spend with family and to make new memories. It is a time for fun in the sun, family gatherings and parties, shopping till you drop, and loads of festive food and activities. However, it is also a time of great anxiety and stress for people with low sensory thresholds, especially children. While everyone else is getting excited about the people you will see and do things with, anybody with low sensory thresholds is ready to bolt in the opposite direction.

The hypersensitive child can become overwhelmed by all the sensory input from the lights, decorations, music, food and crowded shopping centres. Being away from home interferes with the carefully structured and routine life one has, and going to new places and meeting new people bring about changes that make the child with low sensory thresholds anxious.

Here are some useful tips to help prevent overload and meltdowns:

  • Have a clear understanding of the child’s sensory needs and dislikes. Take note of behaviour while on the beach, at family gatherings and when eating different foods. Also, go back and recall the past events where sensory overload happened.
  • No new clothes. Pack clothes that your child has worn and approved. New clothes must be tried and tested before you even leave home.
  • Holidays mean no school or homework, and little to no work commitments for most of us, and thus there goes the need for routine. This could be cataclysmic for the child with low thresholds. The hypersensitive child needs routine and structure during the holiday season too. Have a schedule and stick to it as much as possible.
  • Keep to your child’s sleep routine. Prepare your child for the fact that he will be sleeping in another bed. If you have to, pack his linen and his pillow in.
  • Be prepared to deal with the unexpected. Summer is generally a great time to try new things.  Some of these new experiences can however be overwhelming for the child with low thresholds. Give them as much warning as possible beforehand whenever there are changes to the planned schedule.
  • Discuss events or activities that could be overwhelming – break it down and help the child do a sensory breakdown of the activity.
  • Let the child try a new activity in a safe and contained environment. Many outdoor activities have intense multi-sensory input, and the child will be less likely to explore their boundaries. For example, if you are going to the beach, fill a tray with sand and shells, and encourage the child to play with it. This way, the child has a way to get used to a tactile sensation before he even gets to the sandy and wet beach.
  • Allow your child to wear water shoes when walking on the sand and grass – it will decrease the tactile input and it will also protect those sensitive feet from the hot sand too.
  • Apply sunscreen before you leave the house. This will allow it to dry, therefore reducing the amount of sand that will stick to the body
  • Give your child sunglasses and a hat to protect his eyes from the intense and bright sunlight.
  • Have an umbrella or tent to create shade and to protect from the wind and bugs.
  • Have earplugs or earphones handy for when it gets too noisy. This will help decrease the intensity of the multisensory input.
  • Have wet wipes or hand sanitiser on hand.
  • Maintain your child’s diet and keep your child hydrated. Food is fuel for our bodies and our brains. Too much junk food and holiday foods can throw our bodies into disarray.
  • Consider meal options when you are away from home. You know what your child’s food likes and dislikes are, and if need be, take his favourite food with him to dinner. Prep your family and friends in advance, and do not force your child to eat something that he does not like.
  • Have an escape plan – identify a room or have a small tent that your child can retreat to when it all gets too much. Have his sensory tool kit (e.g. fidgets, chewies, plush toy, earphones, water bottle, a book to read) nearby, so that he can regulate with the things that bring the most comfort. Have someone else in your family that can help you make sure that the safe place is ready for when it is needed.
  • Avoid shopping trips with your child. Shopping malls are overwhelming and full of stressed-out people, different sounds smells, and long queues – the perfect place for a sensory meltdown.
  • Add sensory-friendly things to do – visit the museum, go to the aquarium or go watch a movie.

At the end of the day, remember to have fun. Holidays are there to make new memories and to spend quality time with our loved ones. Be flexible –  looking out for and taking care of our loved ones are important, so it’s okay not to do that scheduled activity if one of us is not in a good sensory space.

Happy holidays!

Learn more about your own sensory style: do your Sensory Matrix™.

Why you have to take some quiet & alone time

The world is loud and busy. There isn’t enough time in each day for the things that need to be done, never mind adding elusive concepts like ‘spending quiet time’ to the mix.  And I know what you’re thinking ….I don’t have time for quiet time! What on earth could I gain by taking some quiet time?

Years of research by specialists in the field tell us that our bodies and minds can only go ‘full steam ahead’ for a certain amount of time. If you keep pushing 8 (9, 10, 11…) hours a day, the increase in time does not necessarily correlate to increased productivity. It does, however, correlate to increased stress levels, higher irritation, poor judgement and decision making and having to re-do and repair previous work, which leads to… you guessed it, more stress!

So this is a plea from Sensory Intelligence® Consulting – find a quiet space and spend some time alone, because it actually saves time. Like many things in life, it’s about quality, not quantity. Spending an hour of quiet time a week can save time later in the week. By taking time out of your busy life, you ensure that you are fully present when you re-engage. This means your family gets to spend better quality time with you, you are more productive at work and you get things done faster because you are less stressed.

So what do we mean by quiet time?

Quiet time looks different for everyone. The only criteria are that it’s a space with the least amount of stimulation (be that children, spouses, work, cellphone, traffic etc.) where you can just be and do nothing for a while. ‘Doing nothing’ might include sipping on a cup of tea in your garden, curling up on your couch on a rainy day, or simply finding a moment to sit uninterrupted in your car before the day starts.

Although you can define your own ‘quiet time’ and create your own ‘quiet space’, here are a few recommendations:

  • Remove tech! No phones, laptops, iPods etc. in your quiet space.
  • This is a solitary activity. No partners or children around. In fact, negotiate with your partner to take care of the children for your quiet time, which means they get alone-time with the children and you can swop when your partner needs his/her quiet time.
  • It works best if there is a routine to it, for instance deciding that one hour every Saturday morning is yours. Or wake up 30 minutes earlier to spend some time alone before the day starts.
  • Make it a priority. If you don’t carve out some quiet time and protect it, it will never happen.

We challenge you this week to take some quiet time and just see what you feel like afterwards. We guarantee it will make a difference in the quality of your life!

If you want to make your “quiet time” really meaningful and personal, complete the Sensory Matrix™ self-assessment to understand how to switch off your brain the best!

With love

Karlien and the Sensory Intelligence® Consulting Team

 

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