Searching for your perfect match

Posted: 3 August, 2018

By: Marieta du Toit

Section: Relationships

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During a recent visit with a single, forty-something friend of mine, the following question came up during our discussions (as I knew it would… as it always does…): “When you met your future husband, did he meet all your preconceived requirements for a perfect life partner?” Of course, I tried to steer the discussion in a different direction, evading the aforementioned question. Our talk veered off to more philosophical topics, resulting in an ample amount of introspection and self-discovery.

On my way home that afternoon, my friend’s question got me thinking about searching for “Mr. Right”. After careful consideration, I realized that it is of utmost importance to first know yourself well enough before searching for your life partner. It is crucial to know what your own preferences and pet peeves are, how you cope with stressful situations, what makes you tick, which environments you enjoy most, which qualities in others you struggle with and/or admire… the list is endless.

Our behaviour is often the result of our reaction to situations, environments and sensory input that needs to be processed by our brains. Processing of sensory information happens on a primitive, neurological level; it is not a conscious decision on how we’ll react to sensory stimuli but rather a subconscious one… it just happens.

Every person is unique in the way they process this information and therefore no two persons’ reactions will be identical in a given situation.

In general, people react in one of three ways:

  • People with a low threshold can easily be over-stimulated by sensory stimuli
  • People with a medium threshold are not severely influenced by sensory stimuli
  • People with a high threshold need extra sensory input

Because of these varying sensory styles, we all prefer different types and amounts of input:

  • Low thresholds prefer predictable input
  • Medium thresholds are not severely influenced by sensory input
  • High thresholds prefer adventurous input

… and different environments:

  • Low thresholds prefer calmer environments
  • Medium thresholds cope well with most environments
  • High thresholds prefer more stimulating environments

So, coming back to my friend’s question, I’d have to be honest and say that finding my perfect life partner started with me figuring myself out first.

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