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Just when you thought you had all your silly season shopping done and dusted and that you would not have to put a foot back into a shopping mall again until at least March, you remembered about the long list of stationery and clothing requirements that needed to get ticked off before sending the kids off to school! And you can’t help but wonder “how did we ever get through school with just a pen, pencil, eraser and sharpener?’’

Luckily most of the mad rush to get ready for going back to school has mercifully passed in a mad frenzy, but after three weeks of being laid back, dipping toes into sand and generally just soaking up the sun, it is tough for anyone to get back into the swing of things. For little ones the challenge can be even more frightening as going back to school often comes with a whole lot of unpredictability and uncertainty. It is useful to keep this in mind, listen to your child’s concerns about going back to school and to help them unpack and process as much as possible, while also being aware of and managing your own anxiety. It is useful to plan for the transition and provide as much structure and predictability from your side as possible:

Routine is key to a healthy, happy school going child – be sure to have a clear routine and expectations surrounding this routine in the form of a visible roster
Talk to your children about the new teacher or children that may be in their class
Your child may like to go to school with a school journal to draw events that happen during the school day or write them down to tell you when they get home
Try not to miss out on movement and play when they return to school – schedule regular movement breaks during homework time
Set aside time to spend with your children and chat to them about what happened in their school day – – make a point of getting them to tell you their highs and lows of the day to avoid getting one-word answers like “fine’’.

What if my child refuses to go to school?

As adults, we reminisce about how easy life was back when we went to school. Things were amazingly simple. The reality of our children may however not be that simple anymore. Our children’s lives have become increasingly complex as a result of a range of external factors, as well as feelings and thoughts that can lead to utterances such as: “school is hard’’, “I don’t want to go to school’’, and even “I hate school’’. These are not statements that should merely be shrugged off as they could be indicative of something that is making your child unhappy and insecure at school.

Most parents have at one time or other seen their children in an emotional state about not wanting to go to school. It is not easy to reason with a child who is consistently refusing to go to school. Refusing to go to school is very different to being truant. It is a challenge for both parents and teachers.

School avoidance can be as a result of a variety of factors:

Social – no friends, moving home and school, bullying, teasing
Worry and anxiety – about doing badly in a test, being laughed at, not coping with school, not being liked, separation anxiety and so forth
Learning and processing difficulties – hard to pay attention, hard to read or write, not finishing work on time, not keeping up with work, difficulty with sensory processing

So what can you do as a parent?

Acknowledge your child’s anxiety – let them know that they are heard and that their concerns matter to you
Stay calm – by showing your child that you too are anxious and upset, will only serve to increase their anxiety
Use clear and calm statements to let your child know that you expect him or her to go to school, for example:
- “When you go to school today”
- “It’s time to get out of bed”
- “Brush your teeth, we are leaving in 15 minutes”
Do not use statements such as the following that give your child options to say no to school:
- “Are you going to school today?” or;
- “Are you feeling okay?”
Plan for a calm start to the day – pack school bags and lunches the night before as routine will help your child feel positive about going to school
Help your child to stay with sleep and wake routines – children need ample rest and sleep in order to function and cope at school
Praise your child when they go to school – “I know that this is hard for you, and I am very proud of you for going to school”
Make home very boring during school time, if your child does stay at home – no TV, computers, internet, game consoles, gadgets, or other ‘’fun stuff’’
At all times, if possible, DO NOT let your child stay at home. Our natural response to something scary is fight or flight. Staying at home is avoiding and running away from the situation, which only gives immediate and temporary relief, thus not allowing your child to learn coping and regulation strategies. Avoidance makes the fear stronger; it is okay to get your child to school while working out what is upsetting him or her
Contact the school and your child’s teacher, you need them and they need you. Inquire about any changes that may have happened and likewise, inform teachers of major life changes in your child’s life. If other issues such as depression, anxiety or learning problems are of concern, please seek professional help.

Give your child regulation strategies to help calm the nervous system:

Deep pressure, like a big bear hug
Deep breathing
Crunchy lunch box snacks
Sucking sweets or drinking water from a sports bottle with a spout
Allowing for a movement break
Carrying a backpack
Prepare your child in advance, if you can, of any changes in routine, outings or substitute teachers

As a parent, you need to look after yourself too! Get enough rest, exercise and take time for yourself, and don’t put the burden of self-blame upon yourself – we cannot fix everything for our children.

We went hunting for some great resources and tips for you:

Healthy lunch box ideas and recipes (Munchkins)
Homework tips (Kids Health)
Teen Depression (Erika’s Lighthouse)
Printable Routine Charts (Pinterest)

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Often in life the simplest changes have the most profound influence with longer lasting effect. When taken in context of our learners in their classrooms, the slightest environmental change can have a dramatically positive influence on their learning that is more easily sustained.

Classrooms by their very nature are busy environments and our busy students often are the ones we spend the most energy on. A lot is happening to our senses consistently throughout the day:

Visual – think of how much “stuff” is on display on the walls all around
Auditory – think of the learners themselves in your class and those next door
Touch – closeness of learners to each other
Smell – with the latest heat waves we’ve been experiencing – our kids are sweating
Movement – learners are up and about frequently

Teachers are becoming more aware of the need to address the sensory needs of the children in their classrooms. It is understood that children have different sensory thresholds and needs, but finding ways to put the various strategies in action in order to create an optimal learning space is often easier said than done.

A sensory savvy teacher will want to create a sensory smart classroom. The sensory classroom must give opportunities for heavy work, movement and other sensory strategies that will calm or alert children in order to focus and learn optimally.

Simplifying your classroom for your ‘’busy’’ students

By removing “potential” movement in the direct visual field we minimise distraction. Often the busy bees are best seated near the front and middle (or slightly to the side furthest from the door). It is also good to have the work on display put on the back walls so as not to be in the direct visual field all day.
Seat a busy child so that they do not have to continually rotate their head to see the board or teacher. Rotation stimulates, so if we decrease this and keep their head position more central, we introduce positioning that is calming.
Consider having the child do 50% of their handwriting activities when standing, leaning the non dominant hand on the desk. The pressure of weight bearing is calming and this allows for longer focus.
Change the working posture every 20-30 minutes. Facilitating movement between postures gives them movement feedback and allows the different pressure centres of the body to be stimulated. Consider reading whilst lying on the tummy with elbows tucked to the sides; then change to side sitting with the non dominant hand supporting their weight out to the side; then move into a kneeling position at the desk with elbows on the desk and the reading book flat.

More strategies to make your classroom sensory savvy

Allow for movement breaks, for both the individual child and for the class as a whole. This will energise your class for the rest of the day. 2-3 minutes of movement can increase concentration for 15-20 minutes. Consider using a child in need of movement as your errand person for the day; give them an area they could do some wall push ups on for about 30-50 repetitions, or even get them to bounce on a trampoline outside for 10 minutes at a time.
Allow for chewy and resistive snacks, (e.g. chewing gum, nuts, dried fruit, sucking sweets); drinking water from a sports bottle or through a straw; crunchy foods such as carrots, apples, nuts or popcorn, and mouth fidgets (blowing balloons, blowing bubbles or chewy tubes) that allow for organising and calming of the sensory system
Design a quiet area in your classroom, place comfortable cushions, soft toys, books and earphones with classical music to allow for time out from a sensory overloaded environment.
Reduce visual distractions by keeping toys and books in baskets, bins or cupboards.
Increase natural lighting if possible, as this promotes a calmer learning environment.
Provide fidget toys such as stress balls, Theraband and play dough.

Gerald Maidens and Annabella Sequeira are Specialist Sensory Intelligence® Facilitators for Parents and Teachers.

Category: Education

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