Our top tip to improve workplace relationships

How to improve workplace relationships
February is the month of love, and for most of us that means romantic relationships. You probably spent some special time with your partner on Valentine’s Day, or if you’re single, maybe eye-ing someone new or considering what you might want from a romantic relationship. We hope that this was a lovely time for you – whether you connected with a romantic partner or spent time with friends. Love is always beautiful in all ways, shapes and forms.

At Sensory Intelligence Consulting we believe one of the most important relationships in our lives, but one that we rarely focus on, is our relationships with our colleagues. Most of us don’t ever really think about the quality of relationships we have with people at work, or specifically invest in them, like we do in relationships with our loved ones.  Here are some facts to consider when thinking of the importance of workplace relationships:

  • We spend 8 hours or more a day with our colleagues. This is probably more time than you spend with your family, friends or partner.
  • Good workplace relationships are shown to advance careers. They are an indicator of your likelihood of getting a promotion, a positive reference and having colleagues and superiors listen to your ideas and take you seriously.
  • If we have good relationships with our colleagues we are more likely to let go of small irritations and overlook their negative traits. This leads to less conflict in the workplace and a more positive environment to work in.
  • Loneliness is seen as an epidemic with similar health risks as smoking and obesity. Good workplace relationships can combat loneliness and improve our overall health and well-being.
  • Recent studies show healthy workplace environments significantly improve productivity and workplace outcomes.

And the most important point … if you are going to spend so much time with your colleagues…
wouldn’t it be better to just get along?

We believe in the KISS principle (even more so during the month of love!), in other words, Keep It So Simple. We love making things practical and easy to understand. Building good relationships with your colleagues doesn’t have to take tons of extra time and energy – we know you’re busy ?.  So we decided to share our NUMBER ONE TOP TIP on how to improve workplace relationships:

STOP, LOOK and LISTEN when you communicate.

Let’s elaborate on these concepts:

  • STOP –  When you communicate with a colleague, put down everything else. Don’t multi-task while trying to communicate effectively. Put away technology and other distractions. Even though Skype and email can make things quicker and easier, still make time for face to face connection on a regular basis.
  • LOOK – make eye contact. 90% of communication is body-language. If we make eye contact and really focus on the person’s expression, tone of voice and other cues their body is giving us, we will understand them much better.
  • LISTEN – Open your ears and your heart to what the person is saying. Don’t just listen to solve problems or answer back. Don’t even think of a response yet. Just listen.

Stop, look and listen is the 101 of good communication and can vastly improve workplace relationships. When people communicate better and really feel connected and heard, everything else goes smoother. We also use most of our senses when we stop, look and listen, so we are not only connecting on a cognitive level, but also on a sensory and bodily level.

Are workplace relationships a problem at your company? Why not let us come in and do a bespoke, custom-made workshop for you to address this problem. Send us an email with your specific requirements.

Falling (and staying) in love

Falling in love must be one of the most surreal human experiences. That racing heart, sweaty palms, pointless giggles, focused attention on another person and an increased ability to recognise the finest detail of the lucky recipient of your affection. It feels like you’re floating in a bubble of excitement and happiness and all you have to show for it is a sheepish smile stretching from ear to ear. Happy times indeed!!

Research has shown that the chemistry behind the initial phase of falling in love, might very well be explained by the release of certain chemicals such as dopamine, testosterone, norepinephrine and PEA (phenylethylamine) in the brain. The study of Pairomics (your choice of romantic partner on a genetic level) strongly suggests that your genes also play an important role when falling in love.

Thankfully this clearly shows that there’s a biological reason for newly-found lovebird’s giddiness and silly behaviour… which the rest of us (if we have to be completely honest) remember all too well and envy so much. So, if we can explain the wondrous act of FALLING in love, can the same be said for STAYING in love?

I have always been of the opinion that love should be perceived as a verb and not just an emotion. When you LOVE a significant other, it should not only be about sweet nothings being whispered in each other’s ears. Really LOVING someone should mean that you make a conscious decision to support the other person and care for them to the best of your ability. Love should be MORE than just words.

When considering how to LOVE your partner, identifying his/her individual preferences and needs will guide you to make the right choices when choosing LOVE ACTIONS.  At Sensory Intelligence® Consulting, we approach individual needs according to a person’s sensory assessment. We all react to our environments according to our inborn sensory thresholds:

People with HIGH THRESHOLDS:
  • Need extra sensory input to function optimally
  • They appear busy, “on-the-go”, energetic and spontaneous

LOVE ACTION IDEAS:

  • Ask various questions about their day when they get home
  • Take them on surprise dates, to new places
  • Give lots of physical affection on a regular basis
  • Take them out for a night on the town
  • Go to cooking classes together at the hip, new venue in town
  • Go to the gym or do adventurous activities together
  • Arrange regular visits with large groups of friends
  • Don’t leave them alone too long… they enjoy things happening around them
People with MEDIUM THRESHOLDS
  • Easily cope with sensory input from their environment
  • They appear calm, productive, even-tempered and flexible

LOVE ACTION IDEAS

  • Ask a few questions about their day when they get home
  • Takes them on scheduled-, as well as surprise dates
  • Give physical affection from time-to-time
  • Take them to the movies or music show
  • Go to cooking classes in a smaller group at any venue
  • Join them in sport activities of their choice
  • Arrange visits with good friends as well as one-on-one time spent together
  • They need both together- and alone time
People with LOW THRESHOLDS
  • Need less sensory input to function optimally
  • They appear structured, organised, in control and reliable

LOVE ACTION IDEAS

  • Give them a few minutes to unwind when they get home
  • Discuss scheduled dates ahead of time
  • When giving physical affection, use deep pressure
  • Rent a movie to watch at home or invite a couple for dinner
  • Go to couple cooking classes at a familiar venue or at home
  • Give them time to enjoy individual sport e.g. golf
  • Arrange occasional visits with a small group of friends as well as lots of one-on-one time
  • They need enough alone time to unwind and regroup
There you have it… LOVE is an ACTION!
With wonderful, rewarding, happy results!

I bet you and your significant other can fall in love all over again, by understanding each other a bit better.   Why don’t you both complete our online free Sensory Quiz™ or our comprehensive Sensory Matrix™.   Take the leap… it’s worth the effort!!!

 

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