Your sensory guide to choosing the right restaurant

Have you ever been to a restaurant and things just didn’t feel right? Or you feel more stressed when you leave than you did when you walked in? Or you change tables 3 times and are still not happy? This can all be linked to your sensory thresholds – in other words, how you unconsciously process sensory stimuli from the environment.

Today I want to give you some tips on choosing the restaurant that is right for your unique sensory threshold. You will also gain some insight into why you might intuitively like certain restaurants and not others. Our sensory ‘decisions’ are made in a lower, subconscious part of our brain and influence our everyday lives, often without us even being aware of the decisions being made – like choosing a restaurant!

But first, let me explain sensory thresholds.  People are divided into three broad categories of sensory thresholds:

  • Sensory seeking: People who seek more sensory input from their environments. Generally, they enjoy busy environments, cope well with change and don’t mind loud noise.
  • Sensory adaptable: People who don’t respond greatly to sensory input don’t seek more or less. They are usually adaptable, even-tempered and can easily be in a high-energy or low-energy environment. For that reason, I won’t give much guidelines for medium threshold people when choosing a restaurant, but they can look at each point individually as sometimes different senses (like smell, taste, touch etc) can be seeking or sensitive.
  • Sensory sensitive: People who need less sensory input from their environments. Usually, they dislike busy, environments, enjoy predictability and like soft background music.

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Restaurant Guide:

  • Seating: I am sensory sensitive. The first thing I look at in a restaurant is where I am going to sit. I prefer corner seats, with my back facing the restaurant, or seats that are not next to a walkway. Sensory seekers however are not very particular about where they sit, but the closer to the action, the better. They would enjoy facing the other tables and won’t mind sitting close to a door that opens and closes constantly.
  • Chairs: For people with a lower sensory threshold (sensory sensitivity), restaurant seats are much more important than for those with a higher threshold (sensory seekers). Lower threshold people enjoy more comfortable chairs, tub chairs, chairs with back- and arm-rests. Sensory seekers don’t mind bar stools or chairs without back- and arm-rests. This can definitely be a deal-breaker on a first date?
  • Menu: People with sensory sensitivity might enjoy simpler dishes, or menu’s with less items to choose from, as they become easily overwhelmed by too much information. They might stick to dishes they’ve tried before, or choose a dish they know well. Sensory seekers love novelty and variety. They won’t mind a menu with many different items and would enjoy choosing new and exciting dishes and flavours.
  • Colour & decor: Even though sensory sensitives appreciate interesting interiors, they might be drawn to more neutral colours and minimal objects in their visual field. They don’t like clutter in their visual space. Sensory seekers on the other hand are generally drawn to bright colours and a variety of decorations and interesting interior designs.
  • Routine: Do you always go back to old favourites, or do you like trying different restaurants when you go out? This is a perfect example of the subconscious ‘decisions’ of your sensory thresholds at play. Sensory sensitives usually have a favourite place or two and stick to them. Sensory seekers want to try new places and have new experiences. This can be a tricky situation for new couples or friends and might require some negotiation.
  • Spacing: We are also subconsciously drawn to the spacing of a restaurant. Sensory sensitives are intuitively drawn to restaurants with cosy corners, smaller rooms, fewer tables in an area, lower lighting, less movement and lower energy. Sensory seekers don’t mind large, open spaces, many tables and chairs, lots of people, people who stand and sit, lots of movement and high energy in a restaurant.

I hope this explains why you love some places and don’t like going to others. Please share some of your sensory experiences and insights on our social media platforms.  We would love to hear from you!

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Sensory seeking or Sensory avoiding?

When I met my husband years ago, I was introduced to the world of a practical, DIY, go-getter who doesn’t hesitate to dirty his hands to get the job done.  Initially, I’d get very excited at the prospect of tackling a new project around the house. The thought of spending time together doing something to enhance our love nest even sounded strangely romantic. The mental pictures I envisioned of the end product were always very appealing.

But (doesn’t there always seem to be a “but”?), becoming part of this go-getter’s world took some getting used to! Due to my low threshold for sensory stimuli, my first reaction to a proposed new project would usually be a cautious, firm handbrake sounding like: “But what about…”, “But have you thought about…?”, “But let me just check first…” or simply “I don’t think so!” Thankfully my hubby knows by now how to ease me into any new ideas and projects.

So, what is this difference in approach between people seeking extra sensory stimulation and those trying to avoid it (subconsciously of course), like myself?

  • As a rule of thumb, sensory seekers enthusiastically create new projects in their minds and love sharing it. They have lots of plans, ideas and often excess initial energy. Imagine Donkey (from the Shrek movies) … FULL OF LIFE!
  • On the other side, we have sensory avoiders who cautiously analyze these newly proposed projects, breaking it down to specific tasks and responsibilities and often getting fixated on intricate details. Enters Shrek!

I am often amazed (and exhausted) by a sensory seeker’s ability to not only come up with exciting ideas and plans but also their ability to give attention to simultaneous tasks, seeming to be in complete control of all the various activities… seeming… By closer inspection though, there’s often a task-oriented and logical sensory avoider running around behind the scenes, organising and arranging tasks to make things happen.

So, the question pops up: who is approaching the project best? Donkey or Shrek?  In my humble opinion, I believe the best approach is a joint venture where the seeker’s energetic go-getter ambition is complimented by the avoider’s organizational approach with an end result of magic projects!

Donkey will be lost without Shrek and Shrek will be missing out on life without Donkey.

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