2017 · Page 4 of 7 · Sensory Intelligence Consulting

I love food! I love tasting food, smelling food and looking at food. Above them all, I love making food. For years I miserably declared that I don’t have an inkling of artistic flair in me. However, give me an apron, a wooden spoon, and a recipe book and throw in a glass of wine. Then put me in front of my gas stove and the creative genius in me is unleashed. Yes, I love making food and making it for others. No self-doubt anymore, I have art in me….

So obviously, when the Cape Town Good Food and Wine Show (GF&WS) came up, I marched up to hubby and insisted that we go. Insisting that we go alone as a date definitely did the trick. He agreed and we decided to spend some time during Saturday the 3rd of June at the Cape Town Convention Centre exploring the GF&WS. Some reluctance crept in prior to us going and for a few brief moments, I wondered if it wouldn’t be easier to just stay at home. That is what you get for working hard during the week and being over 50 – doing nothing becomes an appealing prospect.

Alas, the thought of seeing Marco Pierre White live in action toppled the scale and off we went. As we entered the convention centre the mixture of people, smells and buzzing activity literally flared up my brain to a state of exhilaration. I just couldn’t wait to taste, see and experience. My senses were all switched on, alive and ready to fire – all guns blazing. As a turned back – yes, I was kind of running to the stimuli ahead of my husband – I saw a different picture. There was obvious discomfort and apprehensiveness on his face as he asked, “Can you hear all the noise? There is a constant hum and buzz in my ears”.

The sensory seeker in me, with high sensory thresholds, was embracing this environment while he, a sensory avoider, with low thresholds found it overstimulating. But he declared: “I am doing this for you, and you only”. I was reminded that compromises often occur in relationships and that choosing date night activities are one of them. Shuffling through the crowds and dodging people made him very aware of his environment and placed him somewhat on high alert. The shuffling for me just created more interest and stimulation – where are we going and what are we seeing, smelling, tasting? I saw the buzz and people as a common denominator in our quest for sensory experience. My husband, on the other hand, saw the buzz and people as a sensory distraction and irritation. It helped when we sat down in the chef’s open theatre, had an excellent bottle of red Shiraz and was nibbling on the variety of wonderful food.

Marco Pierre White entertained us in a more controlled and quiet space. Hubby was happy and I was over the moon. I even got the chance to ask him a question – does he like South African food and has he tasted biltong yet? After that, we wrapped up the evening, had a great coffee and delicious, sweet nougat and made our way back home. My cup was full, I was happy, thrilled and sensory pleased and hubby could do his late-night unwind in front of the TV. I thanked him for making the effort for me, gave him a bear hug (deep pressure calms the brain), and replied that he can choose the next date night.

Understanding sensory diversity has been my quest in life but being reminded again and again how it influences our choices and relationships is such a blessing. Insight and understanding are key. I am sure our next date night will be a movie in a small, dark theatre or maybe dinner in a tucked-away restaurant. It will be an “old” restaurant that he knows and we will be sitting at the table at the end, with his back to the wall. His sensory system will be at peace, mine would potentially be somewhat bored, but the compromise is always worth it. I’ll be reminded of the GF&WS….

Understanding and respecting individual differences and different sensory needs should be the lens through which we see our partners. Loving and accepting them for who they are and appreciating their strengths do wonders to any relationship. So next time – to do or not to do? Knowing your sensory thresholds and sensory needs not only helps you to make better choices but also enables you to nurture your relationships.
If you want to understand your sensory thresholds and know which choices to make, complete your own Sensory Matrix™ assessment.

5 Tips for sensory avoiders to manage food and wine shows:
1. Wear a hat, beany, or scarf to “protect” your ears and head. It has the capacity to drown out some of the noises.
2. Let your partner do the people shuffling in front so that you can follow in the back. He/she will open up a path for you with less bumping and touching.
3. Go in prepared – self-talk and commit to staying in it and leave before your system reaches sensory overload. Knowing that you are doing this for someone else who you really care for help. We should always be giving more than getting.
4. Find a quieter space, corner or table (always the one at the side and not in the middle) where you can sit and be still for a bit. It can help to calm the senses in a “pause” mode.
5. If all else fails, just indulge in good food and drink more wine! It is not a blog about food and wine for nothing….

Fidget spinners are everywhere! And every child that doesn’t have one wants one. They are just the coolest thing to have right now. As adults, teachers and parents just don’t get it and find them a nuisance as well as distracting. Yet they are no different to past fads such as Yo-yo’s, Silly Bandz and Slime. Fidget spinners actually have a purpose to them, they help children and adults cope with stress, anxiety and sensory processing disorders.
Fidgets have been around for many years, but they have never been as popular as now. As has been the case in the past, the novelty of having these fidgets will wear off, and only the children who really need the fidget will keep it on hand in the future.

What is a fidget?
A fidget is a small object that keeps one’s hands busy, while reading, listening or working. They equate to twirling one’s hair around your finger, biting on pencils, rocking chairs, tapping pencils, getting up every 5 minutes to drink water and tapping one’s foot on the floor while trying to attend to a task at hand. In all these examples there is a need to move in order to focus while doing a task.

Fidgets provide us with that subtle movement and touch input that helps to calm the nervous system. Movement is the most powerful tool that we have to stay focused and attentive on a task at hand, and fidgets provide us with an outlet for small, inconspicuous movements while one is working. Directed and purposeful movement is known to enhance learning as both sides of the brain are called into action.

Why the need to fidget?
Children are expected to sit for longer during their school day, and they are expected to maintain an upright sitting posture against the force of gravity. Fidgeting is a strong sign that our children are not getting enough movement opportunities in the day. When a child fidgets, the teacher naturally tells the child to stop, which then leads to the child being distracted and unable to do what is expected of him. The child is not getting enough sensory input to stay alert.

Add constant sensory input, which leads to sensory overload and the child who is easily overwhelmed, fidgets as he/she is getting his body ready to fight the sensory overload.

Fidgets form part of our Sensory Intelligence® Toolbox, they add meaningful sensory input for attention and for calming the nervous system. Understanding and managing their use is vital in order for them to have the desired impact in the classroom or at home while studying.

Set up clear rules for fidgets at school and at home.
1. Fidgets (spinners, cubes, clips, stress balls, etc.) are tools, not toys! Be mindful of when a child really needs it, work out when it is most beneficial and only use it will help the child regulate and focus.
2. Don’t use it if the fidget distracts others, or if it interferes with other children’s ability to do their work – find another fidget or strategy.
3. When you are done with the fidget, put it away where it belongs. Only take it out again when it is needed.
4. You should not need to look at your fidget when you are working – if you are looking at it, you are not paying attention.
5. It must stay in your hand or on your desk – it is not to be thrown around, dropped or bounced.

In order for children to learn, they need to be able to focus and, in order for them to be able to focus and attend to the task at hand, they need to move! Fidget spinners and other tools allow for this in a quiet and less conspicuous way. Once the “fad” is over, we will see fewer spinners in the classrooms and only the children who need them will keep them handy.

Annabella Sequeira holds a BSc (Occupational Therapy) degree from the University of Cape Town, backed by 22 years of experience in both the public and the private sectors. She has extensive practical experience in the area of Sensory Integrative Dysfunction in children and is passionate about empowering others to improve functionality and quality of life.

Year: 2017

Food and wine shows – to do or not to do?

Fidget spinners – annoying toys or tools for concentration?

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