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Autism and the Senses

April marks Autism Awareness month. All around the world-famous landmarks have been lit up with blue lights, a great way for the world to notice that Autism is real, it impacts more people than we can imagine and yet, there is still so much to learn about the condition.

There is no doubt in my mind that parenting is the most difficult and demanding job of all, and this is ever more true in the case of parents with children on the autistic spectrum. Autism impacts many aspects of a family’s life:

  • Anxiety, depression, and exhaustion take their toll on the physical well-being of caregivers
  • There is a huge financial burden due to providing medical and therapeutic care, as well as the appropriate specialized toys and equipment and finding the best school
  • It adds strain on the parent’s and siblings’ relationships. Parents have less quality time together and siblings often feel overshadowed and left out by the added attention and care that the autistic member of the family needs.

SENSORY PROCESSING
Ask any adult or adolescent about what they found most difficult in living with Autism and they will mostly confirm that dealing with the sensory elements of Autism was their biggest hurdle. At every moment in our 24-hour day, our senses are inundated with new and old sensory input, which gets filtered appropriately in order for one to function effectively. Many autistic children have great difficulty with processing sensory input from the environment and added to that, they have great difficulty communicating what they don’t like about the sensory input.

Autistic children are typically sensory sensitive with either low or fluctuating thresholds, meaning that they are hugely affected, (often negatively), by sensory input from their environments. It is just too loud, too bright, too tight or too fast for them. They experience sensory overload on a constant basis and they really battle to cope with this. Their withdrawal patterns and poor social skills are not necessarily caused by sensory overload but are augmented by their sensory issues. Children on the autistic spectrum need consistency, routine and structure. Unpredictable and sensory overloaded environments (like shops and shopping malls) are very difficult for them to cope with, which typically will cause them to throw tantrums, get aggressive and/or withdraw from such environments.

SENSORY MELTDOWNS
Sensory meltdowns occur when there is some form of discordance that happens in one or more of the sensory systems (touch, taste, sound, sight, smell, movement). Low blood sugar levels are also of relevance, as lowered blood sugar levels heighten all the senses. Remove the child from the distressing environment and take him to a safer and calmer place.

These meltdowns happen quickly and without warning.  The best advice for parents is to try not to over-protect these children or to shield them from stressful environments. Learn to anticipate which sensory system overloads the quickest and be prepared. Exposure to new and uncomfortable environments needs to be done in a gentle and calculated way (when the child is calm and regulated) as it helps them learn to anticipate, to adapt to and to manage these environments. A portable sensory toolkit can be taken with you whenever you are away from home.

PORTABLE SENSORY TOOL KIT

  • Sunglasses (to decrease the effect of bright light)
  • Baseball cap or wide-brimmed hat (for decreased visual stimulation)
  • Ice cold water bottle with a sports cap for sucking water or an ice-cold juice with a straw
  • Chewy snacks, like biltong, dried fruit, chewing gum
  • Soundproof headphones for very loud environments
  • Change of clothing (long-sleeved t-shirt to avoid unwanted touch)
  • Deep bear hugs – calming effect
  • Deep breathing – the universal calmer

The senses are thus vital in coping with Autism. Understand it, use it wisely and learn to look at people and environments from a sensory point of view.

Lastly, parents, you are the voice for your autistic child, you are their champion, you fight for their cause and you love them now as you did on the day that they were born. They are still the same children who love you for always being there for them, even when they cannot tell you themselves. You are the one that they depend on to tell the world that they are not less because of a diagnosis or label.

Annabella Sequeira holds a BSc (Occupational Therapy) degree from the University of Cape Town, backed by 22 years of experience in both the public and the private sectors.  She has extensive practical experience in the area of Sensory Integrative Dysfunction in children and is passionate about empowering others to improve functionality and quality of life.

The underwear drawer

My husband and I appear to be pretty similar. We are both tall, skinny and have easy-going temperaments.  There are however some very distinct differences between us. These can most clearly be seen in our underwear drawers.

Opening my husband’s underwear drawer you will find neatly folded, colour coded undies in orderly piles. There is also a specific rotation procedure in place, ensuring that all undies are worn systematically. Opening my underwear drawer, chaos is unleashed. There is no order, there is no colour coding and there is certainly nothing resembling neat piles.

Are one of us right and the other one wrong in our approach to underwear orderliness?

Nope, we just have different sensory thresholds. My husband has a low visual threshold meaning that he functions optimally with minimal visual input and may become easily overwhelmed by visually chaotic and cluttered environments. I, on the other hand, have a high sensory threshold. I thrive on an abundance of visual input. Give me colours, give me shapes, give me visual variety.

So what happens when you are in a relationship with someone with a different sensory threshold to you?

Well, it can sometimes create subconscious stress and lead to a fight or flight response. Fight or flight refers to the physiological changes that our bodies undergo in response to stress. This includes an increase in blood pressure, accelerated heart and lung function as well as suppression of the immune system. On a subconscious level, the brain of a low threshold individual may feel threatened when exposed to certain sensory input. The brain responds to this potential ‘threat’ through a stress response. This response prepares the body to ‘fight’ or ‘flight’ (i.e. run away). You can imagine the negative impact on our day-to-day functioning if one is constantly experiencing underlying stress in response to sensory stimuli in the environment. Practically, this response can lead to irritation and frustration which, in a relationship, has the potential to result in conflict.

Before I had insight into my husband’s sensory threshold, I thought he was sometimes just a big old grump! He would be moody about things that did not even register on my radar. What I realise now, is that he is not choosing to be a grump. Instead, his body is undergoing a response to the sensory input in the environment, which he has no control over. This is a subconscious reaction and not a conscious one.

What helped me come to this realisation was when we both completed and compared sensory assessments. Suddenly we developed a whole new understanding and respect for each other. We now better understand our sensory differences and similarities. We have also come to know and respect each other’s sensory needs and sensory stressors.

Practically, what does this mean?

Well, in our case, when I sort our underwear from the laundry. I make sure that his undies are neatly folded, colour coded and in orderly piles. I also comply with the strict undies systematic rotation procedure. This keeps my husband happy; which in turn keeps me happy. And, I guess this keeps his undies happy too.

If you want to know what is driving your underwear drawer organisation, complete your Sensory Matrix™ self-assessment… 

By Karen Potgieter