Holidaying in Tokyo when you’re sensory sensitive

A week ago my husband and I came back from our holiday in Japan. My mind is still swirling with crazy, busy, colourful, noisy, fantastical images. Tokyo is another world filled with lights, sounds and constant sensory input.

 

In the wonderful world of Sensory Intelligence®, we use the analogy of a tree to depict how people respond to sensory stimuli:

  • Sensory avoiders are roots,
  • Sensory neutrals are trunks, and
  • Sensory seekers are leaves.

As you would have guessed from the title, I am a root.  My husband is a trunk. Want to read more about it? Click here. The Japan holiday was his idea, but I am always up for a new adventure so I was very excited to go with. My “rootedness” was not taken fully into account in the planning, but I soon realised I would need some sensory strategies to make the most of this holiday.

 

Let me paint you a picture: Our luggage didn’t quite make it on time and we had to survive without our belongings for the first 3 days. Thus, on the very first day, straight from the airport, post-32-hours in transit, we headed straight for a clothing store to stock up on essentials. We boarded a train at the airport and climbed out in utter sensory overload/chaos. It was 10am in the morning and the streets were packed – people everywhere, all seeming to know where they are going, moving in every direction. It was raining and we had to run to find an umbrella as our first purchase. We entered the first clothing store we could decipher from the logo (no English!)

 

The floor we entered was the ladies’ section and I told my husband we will find each other later, as we both went hunting for clothes. What we didn’t realise was that this store had 7 storeys!  It sold everything from aircons to massage chairs, to alcohol, to facial products… It wasn’t long before I found myself in an absolute state of overload – as I went up and down the escalator trying to find my husband, a loud, child-like voice was screaming intelligible advertisements over the speakers, there were people everywhere, lights and posters trying to catch my attention, and the hand-luggage backpack on my back was weighing heavily on me. Luckily my husband and I spotted each other passing on the escalators as he was going down and I was going up! We reconnected on the next floor, and there and then I decided I needed a strategy if I were to survive this holiday.

 

  • Holiday survival strategy nr 1: Take snacks.
    I decided to make sure we took snacks wherever we went. Because we walked a lot (maybe a little more than necessary, trying to figure out the city) we couldn’t really plan our meals as much as I’d have liked. So I made sure we took snacks or stopped to buy a snack every few hours. Eating provides self-regulation through chewing, using the proprioceptive sense. I loved the smells and tastes of the new food and snacking also regulated my blood sugar and gave us an excuse to rest.
  • Holiday strategy nr 2: Wear comfortable clothes!
    This seems very self-explanatory, but I needed to remind myself of this constantly. As a root, my clothes bother me quicker than a trunk or a leaf. In the mornings I might consider wearing something less comfortable but would remind myself that I’m going to wear this for the entire day- moving a lot. So even if it meant that I wore my sneakers and comfy jeans every day, I did this. I had my hair up on most days, as my hair down bothers me quickly. There was enough sensory input in a day, and I didn’t want my clothes to add to that and tip me over the edge. Beautiful outfits and high heels could wait for home again!
  • Holiday strategy nr 3: Take a break.
    This is a strategy we often talk about at Sensory Intelligence® Consulting, but not everyone is aware that we can mould this strategy into anything that suits the moment. When you’re spending an entire day out and about and experiencing new things, you can’t always quickly go home to curl up on your favourite couch for some peace and quiet. I made sure to listen to my own cues of becoming overwhelmed (irritability, inability to focus, etc.) and would immediately make a plan to take a break. I’d speak to my husband and tell him we need to rest before tackling the next shrine or museum. Sometimes we would rest in a park or a coffee shop, other times simply sit down on a step somewhere and catch our breaths for a bit. Our breaks looked different from day to day, but I made sure to be intentional about taking them.

 

You might think that there are certain places you won’t enjoy when you are more prone to avoid too much stimuli (being a root), but this holiday proved differently. I absolutely loved Tokyo and the rest of Japan and will definitely go back. It is just important to think about your body and sensory thresholds and use self-regulation strategies. Then the world is your oyster!

 

Do your Sensory Matrix™ to discover your sensory style.

Coping with Voting

Voting day is upon us!

 

For all South Africans eligible to vote (i.e. older than 18 and in possession of an ID book/card), 8 May 2019 is a very important date.  This is the day when you have a political voice as you get to choose your homeland’s future as one of the 26 736 793 (read carefully now!!) registered voters for our sixth general election since 1994.  One of our most fundamental rights as citizens will be exercised and we should all be very excited about this prospect.

 

Having said that, my personal excitement wanes somewhat when I consider the ins-and-outs of the voting procedure and process:

  • Wake up early on a public holiday;
  • Drive to your voting station, which in my case is a small community hall with limited space;
  • In all probability, park a few blocks away from the voting station and set off on foot;
  • Stand in a queue with (often) limited personal space;
  • Try to remain calm while there’s constant noise around you;
  • When you finally reach the inside of the building, you squeeze in behind a cardboard box, try to locate the lucky candidate who’s getting your vote on the busy voting ballot and draw your X in the appropriate block;
  • On the way out (you are sprinting at this stage) you desperately try to avoid a talkative neighbour who’s patiently waiting their turn;
  • As you reach your car, it becomes clear that you’ve been parked in (because you were there EARLY) and will have to wait for your co-voters’ return.

 

Sounds like fun, doesn’t it?!?

No use considering NOT to vote… it is your right!!!

But let’s consider a few sensory strategies to ease the experience.

 

WHY SENSORY STRATEGIES?
Because we all react in a unique way to our environment based on our sensory thresholds. Individuals will cope differently with various amounts of sensory input (sight, sound, smell, taste, touch, movement and body position). Some people seek more sensory input (brighter, louder, stronger smells, more spicy tastes, tickles & hugs, faster) while others prefer less sensory input (natural colours, softer, odourless, milder food, less- or firm hugs, slower). Supplying our nervous system with the right input, enhances harmony and a relaxed state-of-mind… as is needed on 8 May!

 

We have a few general strategies up our sleeve, to ensure you (and your nervous system) remain regulated during voting day: you need to focus when drawing that X!!! These strategies are universal “self-regulation” strategies and can be used by all:

  1. BREATHE
    Deep breathing is one of the fastest, easiest ways to de-stress.  Follow the outline of your fingers with your other hand’s index finger, pretending to trace it: breathe IN when drawing up towards the fingertip, breathe OUT when drawing away from the fingertip.
  2. SUCK
    Always have a water bottle at hand. Water is essential for our bodies and minds. Using a spouted bottle is the absolute best, as the sucking action will calm your nervous system even more.
  3. FIDDLE
    Take your stress ball with to the voting station or fiddle with your car keys.
  4. MOVE
    Moving your body is one of the easiest ways to de-stress. Stamp your feet to the rhythm of music playing through your headphones. Stretch your neck- and calf muscles while standing in queue. Sway from side-to-side if you start feeling stressed.
  5. CARRY A BACKPACK
    Applying deep pressure is calming and relaxing for our nervous systems. Fill your backpack with a water bottle and go voting with added deep pressure on your back and shoulders.
  6. SNACK ON HEALTHY FOOD
    Take along biltong, raw apple/carrots and chewing gum. Chewing will provide more deep pressure and keep the hunger pains away.
  7. HEADPHONES
    If you don’t enjoy making small talk, put your headphones on. Also, if you’re sensitive to sounds, headphones can drown out environmental noise.
  8. COMFORTABLE CLOTHING
    Choose your voting outfit well. Choose comfortable shoes and clothes that you enjoy wearing. Remember a warm jacket, just in case the queue is very long.
  9. YOUR OWN PEN
    An easy way to ensure things run smoothly on voting day, is to have your own black pen at hand. The person who’s in front of you in line might just have the sniffles.
  10. HAVE SOMETHING TO EAT BEFORE YOU GO
    Don’t go voting on an empty stomach!
  11. SUNGLASSES & SUNSCREEN OR UMBRELLA
    You might end up standing outside for a long time. Take your sunglasses and sunscreen or an umbrella with you.
There’s no reason to dread voting day … have your say … your way!
See you in the queue!

 

To find out what your unique sensory needs and strategies are, complete a Sensory Matrix™ and create even more harmony in your own life.